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Virtual Support Group

While meeting with other sufferers in person through a local support group is ideal, we’ve found that a virtual group can be just as effective in helping sufferers connect – especially for those who don’t have a group locally. Moderated by volunteer support coordinator and IPA Board Member David Kliss, the Virtual Support Group (VSG) meets online approximately every 4 to 6 weeks on Sundays. Please join him and men and women from around the world for this worthwhile meeting. For an invite, reach out on the Contact the IPA form. Also, see our latest blog post below.

Upcoming Dates

  • Saturday, April 20, 2024 at 4 p.m. US ET | 3 CT | 2 MT | 1 PT
  • Saturday, May 18, 2024 at 4 p.m. US ET | 3 CT | 2 MT | 1 PT

New Backend System is Live

Check your spam folders, please! Today, the IPA rolled out its first email using its new backend office system powered by CharityEngine. If you want to stay up-to-date with our monthly newsletter or workshop updates, please ensure email delivery by marking this message “Not Spam”! Questions? getinfo@paruresis.org

Peeing in the Sin Bin

Treatment for Paruresis is based on a concept known as “gradual exposure therapy”. The ultimate goal is to become comfortable voiding in close proximity to others. To test this theory, for two days we binged on bottled water and practiced peeing in a variety of environments. Las Vegas is riddled with challenging scenarios, as there is no escaping the constant hustle and bustle of people. If you can ace peeing at a urinal in a packed casino restroom, there’s a good chance you can transcend paruresis.

Painting the Town Yellow in Las Vegas

As paruretics we learn to accommodate so our day to day lives are less affected, until things change. Maybe it is a new job, moving to a new city, or having to travel that initiates the obsession of – where will I pee? how will I pee? This summer, I grew tired of obsessing and decided to invest in myself and attend the Vegas workshop.

Trekking with Paruresis

My struggle with shy bladder has pushed me to be a person of action. 10 years ago, I dreamed of doing something awesome to culminate the end of my Air Force career. It wasn’t the standard thing to do and would put me in a situation well outside my comfort zone. Which happens to be exactly what graduated exposure does. Four days after I retired from the Air Force, I set out on a backpacking trip from the US and Mexico border near Lordsburg New Mexico to the eastern part of Yellowstone National Forest in Wyoming along the Continental Divide Trail (CDT).

Stadium Pal/Gal

“Stadium Pal/Gal” External CatheterIPA President and Licensed Clinical Social Worker discusses the benefits of the external catheter “Stadium Pal” from BioRelief.com. “Stadium Gal” also available. (The IPA receives no remuneration from...

Pee Shy Film Blog

I’m a documentary maker by trade, and I thought this would be a fun and worthwhile side project that would also help keep me accountable in my recovery process. And maybe the film itself would lead to a better, more nuanced understanding of paruresis in the wider world.

Practicing Without Knowing It

93% of humankind does not have paruresis and has been using public bathrooms for their entire lives, from grammar school through university and then in offices/workplaces during their professional careers. These 93% have been practicing daily without knowing they were practicing.

Vienna Workshop – One Year Later

In the following I will present my personal impressions of a workshop visit and then describe how I coped with my paruresis after the workshop. Possibly it will serve as an “inspiration” for the one or the other person concerned to design a personal “training program”.

A Woman’s View – IPA Virtual Workshop

[Julia attended our Virtual Workshop on August 12, 2023, led by IPA President Dan Rocker. She shared these thoughts prior to the workshop, and kindly followed-up with her post-workshop reaction. If you are considering attending any IPA workshop, you’ll find her comments valuable.

Flying High!

Greetings fellow members. The following is an edited and expanded version of a text I had sent to two board members upon my return from a trip abroad. Given the length of the flight, weeks prior to my journey I was feeling apprehensive.

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This website is NOT a substitute for medical or legal advice and does not constitute the practice of law, medicine, psychiatry, clinical psychology, clinical social work, or any other mental health profession. If you are having trouble urinating, you should always contact a physician since difficulty with voiding can be a symptom of a serious medical condition. We are a group of professional people and people who have suffered with paruresis. We have assembled a board and a board of advisors to help people cope with urinary dysfunction that has a psychological or social origin. On this website, we are NOT practicing medicine, psychiatry, clinical psychology, clinical social work or any other mental health profession. You should have your doctor evaluate your condition before diagnosing yourself, and seek the appropriate necessary mental health counseling if warranted. IPA, Inc. disclaims any and all legal liability whatsoever.